A friend has just gone back to work after 9 months of maternity leave only to be told on her first day back that they would like to make her redundant. She’s been preparing herself to go back to work for months only she doesn’t seem to have a job to go back to. Whilst a colleague in a different team has her boss making cakes for everyone to welcome her back from maternity leave my friend finds herself dropped in at the deep end.
Whilst she’s been away the technologies she works with have moved on. She feels disconnected and like everyone has moved on without her. I know how I felt going back to work there after 3 months of sick leave and I got to do a gradual return to work with reduced responsibilities. But it did make me realise how strange it would be to return to an office work environment. The circumstances would be different and I’d be starting afresh but it would still be a major adjustment. Well, not a problem because I don’t want to return to the kind of working situation I used to be in before illness robbed me of working.
Anyway – I’m digressing. My friend has to complete a skills audit profile for HR to see if they can reassign her to another role. Also she needs to get that CV up to date. She asked, and I offered, to help her out with these.
What was an advantage was I haven’t done a job since I worked with her so could remember quite well a lot of the roles, skills and experience her job involved a couple of years ago.
But what did leave me shocked was realising that the world has (quite possibly) moved on a lot since I was last employed. Are there new rules about CV’s now? Do you need to highlight different things, include your blog or create a virtual CV? Have the rules of the game changed?
I’m not really asking for the answers here. I used to be a bit of an expert on looking for and applying for jobs. I realised just how much time has passed with me on the sidelines, not keeping abreast of the world, not knowing anymore.
I realises that the world is changing while I sit here on the sofa for years on end busy being sick.
Everytime I go out somewhere I see a new building, a new housing estate, a new shop, a new road that I’ve not seen before but that don’t look particularly new. Because it’s only new to me. It changed while I sat on the sofa. if someone doesn’t tell me about online in the channels I visit – then I don’t know about it.
I wonder if other things are changing, developing and moving away from me aside from those physical environmental things. Fashions, attitudes, social interactions, language, legislation, education. Are the people who I’m closest to actually getting further away from me without me seeing it happening? As their lives evolve and change with me just barely in it.
There’s not much I can do but to do as much as I can. And I’m already doing that (and sometimes more). So I can’t change the changes. But perhaps I need to do more mentally prepared at just how much of an alien I am becoming in the worlds and lives I once knew so well.
I can see how relationships may not suddenly break from chronic illness, but gradually slowly over months and years the cracks can appear from all that wear. How do I guard against that damage which is almost inperceivable to see happening, especially when I am typically too sick to do anything more than the meager amounts I can?
I guess life has no certainties for any of us. You just have to do your best and make the most of what you’re given. But it’s still frightening to lose so much – even if it some of it slips away slowly while you’re not looking.