I’ve been saying for months and months that I intend to apply for Disability Living Allowance (DLA) and not got round to it. Mainly due (ironcially) to poor health and difficulty in getting complex tasks like filling out a DLA form, done.
But I’m moving in the right direction now. I’ve signed up with www.benefitsandwork.co.uk to access their brilliant (and updated) guide to applying for DLA on physical grounds.
My task in the next two weeks is to read through the guide and start making notes on how I can fill out each section of the form.
I have also emailed family and a few friends today to ask if they would consider writing a supporting letter or statement to go with my application. It feels like a big step. Not only do I have to face to realities of what I am not able to do or struggle with – but I am also inviting my loved ones to face it too.
I forget to say this but I would be quite happy with a letter that says “Rachel often stinks and looks a right mess. Her appearance is unkempt and she often smells as she doesn’t wash very as she is too tired to because of her CFS.” I mean I wouldn’t be happy that my family think I stink half the time – but it’s true. And there’s no point pretending to the decision makers that I smell sweet as a rose due to long lavish baths every day when it’s painfully not true!
So, I’m a little worried what the reaction to my email might be. I’m even worried that I sounded like an idiot as it took me an hour to write it!
I’m not brilliant at asking for help – especially when that help is “please put in writing formally everything I am crap at these days”.
But it’s not my fault. And the money each month could help me to be more mobile, or even (I am half dreaming) to employ a part time gardener or cleaner even … hmmm. OR spend on feeling not so crappy. Or on the vitamins and suppliments I take each month. Or on taxi’s to visit folks off my own back. Or on all the gadgets I have my eye on in my latest disability aids catalogue. Oh yes! I know how to live a rock’n’roll lifetsyle!